People who are not happy in their marriage usually end up separated. These people go through issues they feel are beyond working through or in most cases, they attempt to work through it and because of the noncooperation of either party, they fail and resort to divorce as a last resort. It can happen to anyone regardless of race, gender and economic background.
Divorce is not a first resort. You cannot simply wake up one morning and decide that you no longer want to be married. Experiencing problems in ones marriage is not uncommon, everyone goes through it at some point and time. You must come together husband and wife and try to reach a resolution. This is all about compromise and if you cannot do that and you do not want to work things out, the last resort should be divorce.
These proceedings happen in a court of law. It is the only place that it can happen. There has to be a lawyer and a judge to grant the divorce. Provided your spouse does not contest it, it should be over in a reasonable amount of time, however, if they do then you are looking at a delay in the process.
These best time to call a lawyer is when you have tried everything to work it out with your spouse. You need to first go through all the counseling sessions recommended and seek all the help that you are advised to do, Many couples even seek help from the churches or other religious groups. If all else fails and you both feel that your marriage should be ended, then you should make contact with a lawyer.
There are some things in life that you can tolerate and then are others that you cannot move past. If you have encountered an issue that you think you cannot resolve for various reasons, the lawyer should be the first person that you call. You may still continue with work as normal.
Your children should always be your main priority. So you must do all things necessary to get matters done with quickly and pleasantly. This also means tolerating your soon to be ex-spouse. If you feel you would rather not, just think of the children and it will be motivating enough to want to give it a try.
So the choices you make must be in their best interests as well as yours. Since they have no control over the situation you should put their needs first at all times. It is just the right thing to do if not the thing that every parent should do.
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