It may be extremely tempting to make rude, sarcastic, and hurtful remarks to children about the other parent. At the time, it may seem important to make them understand how unworthy the father or mother is of their continued affection. Even when a spouse chooses another family over the current one, it is important to maintain some discretion. Judges don't like hearing that parents have tried to make their children choose between them.
Another common tactic is for the custodial parent to refuse the other parent access to their children. Once again, this puts the kids in the middle of an adult argument. It is harmful and confusing to them. If the non-custodial parent is suspected of some type of abuse or illegal activity, the guardian parent should go through the proper channels to control access to youngsters.
One of the easiest accusations for an angry spouse to make is that of drug or alcohol abuse. If the accusations have any truth at all, the parent in question should admit to it and address the problem head on. Lying to the lawyer and the court is common, but a mistake. It can become a serious issue when it comes to guardianship.
Even though the couple may never want to speak to one another again, if there are children in the mix, refusing to communicate is not an option. It is also unacceptable for the parents to try and communicate with one another through the children. If one parent petitions the court for assistance because the other parent refuses to speak or cooperate, the judge may deal harshly with the uncooperative parent.
If parents are arguing about custody of their kids, judges typically appoint a court representative to conduct a family review. Instead of preparing themselves for the interviews, parents often make the mistake of trying to coach their children in an effort to put themselves in the best light and the absent parent in the worst. This almost always backfires. Children are inclined to tell the truth if asked where their information came from.
Trying to slip a minor child into the courtroom proceedings or allowing kids to read official papers will make a divorce judge extremely angry. No child under eighteen can be present during the proceeding without a ruling by the judge. This behavior can negatively impact custody rights of the parent that exhibits it.
Breaking up a family is never easy, no matter how much the adults are in agreement. When there is contention between the couple, the emotions spill over onto the children. It is far better to put differences aside while discussing custodial arrangements.
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