When going through a breakup of this magnitude things can become nasty pretty quickly and the way forward is to sort out finances as quickly as possible. It is a good idea to have an ante nuptial in place before entering in the bond of matrimony. This is advisable so that if anything does go awry with the marriage then documentation is in place that states who and what each spouse is responsible for.
Having an ante nuptial in place simplifies the duties of both spouses when it comes to financial duties. Should it state with accrual, this can make things complicated as one would have to take stock of what was bought during the marriage and an account made of this. With accrual is usually half and half and each person gets fifty percent of the value of what was bought during the marriage.
It is advisable to have in place a better proposition. This would be an agreement where both spouses keep what inherently belongs to them during the marriage and before entering matrimony. This simplifies matters and all that remains is for a settlement agreement to be worked out.
Even with a solid agreement in place, when emotions run high, it is always difficult to work things out amicably until anger and resentment have subsided. The relationship initially is always acrimonious and this is when it is the most hardest to cooperate with each other. It is best advice, if this is the case, to bring in and include someone with an objective opinion to work out the finer points of the disengagement.
It is a sorry state of affairs when this need arises as this adds to the cost of the settlement. However it is essential that this path be embarked upon especially when a couple is unable to talk to each other in an adult fashion. Drawing up and itemizing a list of inventory is a good step and puts both parties on the path of reconciling as to who will get what.
A mediator can also be brought into the picture but this is an added expense although in some cases the only answer. At times though it is best to wait until the emotions have cooled down so that one can think rationally as to how to proceed. Using a family member may be the answer, it all depends on the situation and boils down to who trusts who.
This will keep the expenses to a minimum and with time all hopefully will get on a better to make the outcome of the separation that much more bearable. It is an emotionally raw and taxing time for both families and the sooner that couples can get along with each other the better as this will curb expenditures in the long run. At best it is better to get along as soon as possible.
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