Acceptance that your old relationship is over and looking to the future is the key to your happiness. How do you move on with your life yet remain optimistic that things will work out between you and your ex?
The death of a relationship is similar to any other sort of death. When a loved one passes away, we have a choice. We can either spend days, weeks, months or even years grieving or we can look at things from a different point of view. We can choose to remember the happy times and be grateful for what we had. We can also look to the future and hope for the birth of a new relationship with the person that we love. If we choose to do this then it might be helpful to move past the pain and begin to rebuild our life.
Taking some time to grieve can be important. Allowing yourself some time to cry, become angry or upset and feel those feeling is important. Denying these emotions might cause problems later on in life.
Instead, remember the fact that your ex was in love with you not too long ago. These feelings and emotions don't just go away. Deep down inside there is a piece of her heart that still beats for you. She might not be in love with how things were going in your relationship but she loved you and she does still love you.
In addition, it's natural for someone to reject you when you are putting too much pressure on them. You might love your partner with every bit of your heart and adore them more than anyone else in the word but there's a difference between desiring to be in a romantic relationship with someone that you love and being desperate to be in a romantic relationship with someone that you love. Desperation is an ugly and very unattractive force that can be felt by your ex. It is seen in your body language and how you are almost begging them to love you. Desperation repulses people sometimes without them even knowing why. Most people will say that they feel uneasy around someone that is desperate. You may have even experienced this at one point in your life when you had no interest in spending time with someone who seemed very nice to everyone else around you.
Spend a little time every day daydreaming about what it's going to be like to get her back. Think about how it's going to feel to have her back in your life. How do you want it to happen?
Take some time and grieve. Allow yourself to experience that pain but put a limit on the grieving process. Once you begin to feel better about yourself then you'll know that it's time to get to work. Soon it will be time to focus on yourself, your needs and your life. Once you begin to care for yourself and love yourself, you will find that you become more attractive to other people in your life, including your ex. The faster you get past the grieving process and on to rebuilding your life, the sooner you will find that your ex will come back to you. Remember that it's always when we're busy with other things that wonderful things happen. When you least expect it, your ex will walk right back into your life.
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