Meeting that special person can be exhilarating and as time goes on you feel that special soul mate connection is really there. As time goes on, you feel that maybe this is the man you will have a very long committed relationship with. You then bring up the subject about where this is all going and he is without words. That sick feeling takes over and you wonder if maybe he will eventually be in the same emotional place as you are.
The answer really isn't magical, although the results may seem that way. Often times, the man is just as concerned about being rejected or refused as you are. There may be other issues that could be holding him back, perhaps even some that you really should know about before saying "yes". Here are some tips to weave your own "spell" to take the relationship to the next level.
1. Timing is everything - If you are going to bring up "forever" doing it while driving, watching television or online is probably not going to be conducive to getting the response you want. Pick a quiet moment when there are no distractions, no schedules or time frames, just the two of you and ask him why the two of you can't be like this forever.
2. Know thyself - It never hurts to take a close look at your own actions and reactions to see if, in fact, YOU are ready for a commitment. You may discover that now is not the time for you to enter into a long-term relationship; not that it couldn't happen at a later date. Remember that if you are projecting, even subconsciously with your own doubts, he may well be reacting to those feelings. Being honest with yourself is a big step in being able to bring about the romantic promise of tomorrow you seek.
3. Owning your feelings - This is your best opportunity to let him know how much you really value him in this relationship and what he means to you. This may calm down any stress he has about the subject of commitment and chances are he will tell you his truth if you tell him yours.
4. Your quest is important - Even if he lets you know that maybe the timing is just off right now or that he isn't really emotionally ready yet to commit, this is when you have the opportunity to decide if you want to continue on and wait, or end it.
Your biggest fear at this point may be rejection if he says "No" or isn't really ready yet. On the other hand, when your future is at stake and he says "Yes", the magic will return to you as you vow to be committed to each other. The feelings you will have cannot be matched when you have found your future and commitment, because it truly is like magic.
The answer really isn't magical, although the results may seem that way. Often times, the man is just as concerned about being rejected or refused as you are. There may be other issues that could be holding him back, perhaps even some that you really should know about before saying "yes". Here are some tips to weave your own "spell" to take the relationship to the next level.
1. Timing is everything - If you are going to bring up "forever" doing it while driving, watching television or online is probably not going to be conducive to getting the response you want. Pick a quiet moment when there are no distractions, no schedules or time frames, just the two of you and ask him why the two of you can't be like this forever.
2. Know thyself - It never hurts to take a close look at your own actions and reactions to see if, in fact, YOU are ready for a commitment. You may discover that now is not the time for you to enter into a long-term relationship; not that it couldn't happen at a later date. Remember that if you are projecting, even subconsciously with your own doubts, he may well be reacting to those feelings. Being honest with yourself is a big step in being able to bring about the romantic promise of tomorrow you seek.
3. Owning your feelings - This is your best opportunity to let him know how much you really value him in this relationship and what he means to you. This may calm down any stress he has about the subject of commitment and chances are he will tell you his truth if you tell him yours.
4. Your quest is important - Even if he lets you know that maybe the timing is just off right now or that he isn't really emotionally ready yet to commit, this is when you have the opportunity to decide if you want to continue on and wait, or end it.
Your biggest fear at this point may be rejection if he says "No" or isn't really ready yet. On the other hand, when your future is at stake and he says "Yes", the magic will return to you as you vow to be committed to each other. The feelings you will have cannot be matched when you have found your future and commitment, because it truly is like magic.
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