Other than being blunt and confronting him with your feelings, creating a connection with him and allowing him to fall in love with you is probably the way to go. Asking him out or taking that first step yourself probably wouldn't be a good move. Even though women are liberated these days and it might work out for you, you stand a better chance of catching that man by letting him be the man. Let him chase you and let him think that it was his idea that the two of you spend more time together.
First, be yourself at all times. Be honest about your likes and dislikes. Trying to fit yourself into a mold or become all the things that you feel he is looking for in a woman is self-defeating. After all, once he does fall in love with you it would be devastating for him to reject you because you lied or presented yourself in a way that wasn't necessarily true. If you don't like football, don't pretend that you do. He will find out the truth soon enough and that can be an embarrassing conversation to have.
Be proud of who you are. If you didn't graduate from college, be truthful. Your success wasn't dependent upon a piece of paper. If where you grew up wasn't necessarily the best part of town, he will admire you for how wonderful you are in spite of this fact. It might not be necessary to unload all of your baggage on him within the first few dates but being honest about who you are and being true to yourself is easier and he will find it refreshing.
When you are together, spend more time listening that talking. Most women are more talkative than men. It can be tempting to monopolize the conversation, especially if he is asking a lot of questions. Take control a little and find out about him. He might not be one to brag but every guy has something that they're proud of. Find out what that is. Take his lead and ask similar questions. Dig deep into his life and who he is. Each answer has the potential for more explanation. Understand how his mind works and what his thought process is as you uncover more about his life. Before you know it, he will be sharing things with you that he hasn't shared with anyone other than his closest friends. This kind of bond will bring you into his inner circle and solidify your place in his life.
Be bubbly and happy any time you see him. It's proven that women who are seen as the bubbly type have guys chasing them all the time. Men like to be with women who are happy and optimistic about like. So many women can be negative, catty and complainers. If you keep this in mind and try not to let yourself get down, you stand a much better chance of being seen as attractive in his eyes. Everybody can find something to complain about at any time but it takes a strong woman to laugh it off and push forward with life. Nobody likes spending time with someone that is angry, upset or depressed about life. It's a turn off for everyone so remember this the next time your tempted to complain about the food, the temperature in the restaurant or how mean your boss was to you today.
You might think that flirting is out of style or that no intelligent man would ever fall for some shameless flirting but the truth is that it still works. No matter how successful he is or how handsome he is, deep down inside he wants to be treated like a prince. He wants you to stroke his ego and be a little feminine and coy with him. Have fun flirting and don't hold back. Toss your hair and look up at him seductively. Touch him when you're talking to him and smile at him. Bat your eyelashes at him and give him your most seductive look and you will turn the most hardened of players into a puddle of mush.
Getting the attention of any guy is simple. Try some of these methods out and practice them on unsuspecting victims and you will find that in time there isn't a guy alive that is immune to your advances. You will become a pro at getting a guy's attention and making him ask you for his number. These methods are so seductive that he will even think that it was his idea to date you in the first place. Have fun most of all and good luck with getting the attention of that cute guy that you're dying to date.
About the Author:
No comments:
Post a Comment