Bullies have been around from the beginning of time, and will never go away. Nobody will forget the individual who was bigger and meaner than the rest of the kids in school. They were the ones that parents wanted to personally get their hands on and teach a lesson. However, in today's society, mental bullying is an abuse that continues to grow day by day.
This form of abuse has one major objective. It is for the abuser to get what they want by placing fear into the minds of the innocent victims that they target. This is not just a problem that young children or teenagers fight, but it's also one that adults come up against. It can be something that someone deals with when in an intimate relationship, and it can also be found in the workplace.
Sometimes, these types of bullies try to make other people pay for mistakes or things that were done to them unintentionally. Sarcasm is also used when questions that are genuine in nature are asked by the innocent. The workplace is a common place where humiliating things that are done or said comes in the disguise of office pranks.
Emotional bullying often seems very childish, but the mental effects linger on even into adulthood. They tend to leave scars and wounds that are very difficult to heal. Those that have experienced this type of mental abuse, often turn around and become mental abusers themselves. The effects that result on a person's mental health is tremendous. It can often bring about shame, low self-esteem, suicidal tendencies, poor job or academic performance, or even extreme shyness. Depression is often at the top of the list. Many times, the victim tends to over identify with the bully. They begin to defend the bully as well as their behavior.
Dealing with bullies may seem to be a hard thing to do. However, there are simply two options that exist. One can turn the other way and ignore the bully, or one can simply stand up against them.
One must understand the mindset of their emotional attacker. Individuals that have been around for a while have more understanding than a typical child would. Understanding that the abuse is not really personally connected to the victim is the first step. It all revolves around the person causing the abuse. They tend not to just bully one person, but many.
When an individual gains more knowledge of how a bully thinks, they will start to look at it more as an illness, and not necessarily a personal attack targeted towards the victim. Ignoring a bully may not be as hard anymore.
There's no doubt that standing one's ground against a bully can be terrifying. However, standing up for oneself usually will produce a positive result. It completely catches the bully off guard, and forces him to change his way. There may be a significant change, or one that is small in nature. It may even cause the attacker to want to stop mental bullying, and get the help that they so desperately need.
This form of abuse has one major objective. It is for the abuser to get what they want by placing fear into the minds of the innocent victims that they target. This is not just a problem that young children or teenagers fight, but it's also one that adults come up against. It can be something that someone deals with when in an intimate relationship, and it can also be found in the workplace.
Sometimes, these types of bullies try to make other people pay for mistakes or things that were done to them unintentionally. Sarcasm is also used when questions that are genuine in nature are asked by the innocent. The workplace is a common place where humiliating things that are done or said comes in the disguise of office pranks.
Emotional bullying often seems very childish, but the mental effects linger on even into adulthood. They tend to leave scars and wounds that are very difficult to heal. Those that have experienced this type of mental abuse, often turn around and become mental abusers themselves. The effects that result on a person's mental health is tremendous. It can often bring about shame, low self-esteem, suicidal tendencies, poor job or academic performance, or even extreme shyness. Depression is often at the top of the list. Many times, the victim tends to over identify with the bully. They begin to defend the bully as well as their behavior.
Dealing with bullies may seem to be a hard thing to do. However, there are simply two options that exist. One can turn the other way and ignore the bully, or one can simply stand up against them.
One must understand the mindset of their emotional attacker. Individuals that have been around for a while have more understanding than a typical child would. Understanding that the abuse is not really personally connected to the victim is the first step. It all revolves around the person causing the abuse. They tend not to just bully one person, but many.
When an individual gains more knowledge of how a bully thinks, they will start to look at it more as an illness, and not necessarily a personal attack targeted towards the victim. Ignoring a bully may not be as hard anymore.
There's no doubt that standing one's ground against a bully can be terrifying. However, standing up for oneself usually will produce a positive result. It completely catches the bully off guard, and forces him to change his way. There may be a significant change, or one that is small in nature. It may even cause the attacker to want to stop mental bullying, and get the help that they so desperately need.
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