Knowing the process in a marriage lets you understand the spot where you along with your partner are near, so it helps explain what could appear to be puzzling behaviors. They make a road map towards a healthy relationship. It does not matter how long you've been in a relationship; most of them fit in these six stages:
The idealization stage
Within this initial stage both partners are trying to get along and please one another; the two of you are attempting to make things work out. At this time, neither person may have seen your respective bad sides because you have both experienced best behavior! This is usually a here we are at romance, and butterflies inside the stomach!
Perturbation stage
During this stage you each start noticing the differences between the two of you. Conflicts start arising however they are easily solved fast most of the time. At this stage we see things a lot more clear as we taking off our "pink" sunglasses. Through this stage, the partners either deal with this or find you breaking apart.
Molding stage
Both partners accept and appreciate each other's weaknesses; they avoid using of force and give up the mentality of love without struggle. This stage is all about the balance of "to give" and "to get".
The stability stage
At this stage the relationship survives the previous molding stage and each partner relax their boundaries and accept that they may never change the other partner. They start giving one another mutual respect in addition to a deeper love ensues.
The surrender stage
Couples surrender to reality and start to believe that their relationships can have some defects too, and accept that it is normal. That's usually where they learn to love the other and definitely feel connected to each other. This period of time shows that you are currently both able to commit long term to one another.
Trust stage
This is actually the last stage, and trust here becomes unconditional. Partners start working on some common projects, they feel united and turn into a true team; this become obvious to everyone around them.
What happens if you fail at one of the stages?
Communication is a vital thing here. Pay attention to your second half; let him/her speak first without interrupting thus air out your issues. You recognize that may be sometimes you feel different and have different points of view on many things. Always try to find a way to understand your partner's point of view or opinion instead of trying to change him or her.
Hope it is more clear now what point your relationship are at, and when you do I'm sure this knowledge may help you find the best partner!
The idealization stage
Within this initial stage both partners are trying to get along and please one another; the two of you are attempting to make things work out. At this time, neither person may have seen your respective bad sides because you have both experienced best behavior! This is usually a here we are at romance, and butterflies inside the stomach!
Perturbation stage
During this stage you each start noticing the differences between the two of you. Conflicts start arising however they are easily solved fast most of the time. At this stage we see things a lot more clear as we taking off our "pink" sunglasses. Through this stage, the partners either deal with this or find you breaking apart.
Molding stage
Both partners accept and appreciate each other's weaknesses; they avoid using of force and give up the mentality of love without struggle. This stage is all about the balance of "to give" and "to get".
The stability stage
At this stage the relationship survives the previous molding stage and each partner relax their boundaries and accept that they may never change the other partner. They start giving one another mutual respect in addition to a deeper love ensues.
The surrender stage
Couples surrender to reality and start to believe that their relationships can have some defects too, and accept that it is normal. That's usually where they learn to love the other and definitely feel connected to each other. This period of time shows that you are currently both able to commit long term to one another.
Trust stage
This is actually the last stage, and trust here becomes unconditional. Partners start working on some common projects, they feel united and turn into a true team; this become obvious to everyone around them.
What happens if you fail at one of the stages?
Communication is a vital thing here. Pay attention to your second half; let him/her speak first without interrupting thus air out your issues. You recognize that may be sometimes you feel different and have different points of view on many things. Always try to find a way to understand your partner's point of view or opinion instead of trying to change him or her.
Hope it is more clear now what point your relationship are at, and when you do I'm sure this knowledge may help you find the best partner!
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