Even with a history of violence, it s been shown it s possible to be rehabilitated. All that s required is the desire to be reformed. And therein lies the solution, in being reformed a person is effectively learning to mold the clay of life into the shapes that suit them best. Things don t always go as planned but being around others also conditioning themselves to always expect the best, teaches one to treat every obstacle as a learning opportunity, an opportunity to grow into something more.
Anything repressed is bound to be expressed, and usually at the most inappropriate of times. So, bottling up one s feelings is like sitting on a ticking timebomb, the outcome can be devastating. Attending courses, or joining a group, committed to developing greater emotional health is one of the most valuable investments anyone could make in themselves. They ll learn the value of addressing sensitive issues as soon as possible, so negative feelings need not build up only to fester over time. As an added bonus, people might even stop referring to you as Tick, Tick, Tick behind your back.
Learning to harness the emotion of anger, channeling it into productive, as opposed to destructive, pursuits can mean the difference between becoming a world class martial artist, and being the drunk banned from every bar in the state where your picture is framed under the notice, Whatever you do, don t give this angry douche a drink! When one s EQ, or emotional quotient, is still a little low on the development spectrum, all is not lost. Investing negative energy into something worthwhile is still a far greater investment than putting positive energy into something counterproductive.
Joining an anger management class affords one the most opportune controlled environment for the free expression of pent up emotion. A convoluted way of saying you might as well be around cat lovers should you ever decide to let the cat out the bag. Sometimes the best way of dealing with a strong, negative emotion is by spontaneously expressing it.
There are also a number of mental exercises for situations that don t present an opportunity for rechannelling the energy, like when receiving an unexpected call from an angry client. Despite its esoteric sounding name, in recent years there s been a massive resurgence of interest into subjects of mind over matter. And at the forefront of such studies has been the development of tools enabling greater control over one s mind, its thoughts and emotions.
Occasionally, you might not be able to catch yourself before slipping into a heated argument with your spouse, colleague, or customer. It does happen so it s nothing to feel too embarrassed or ashamed about. Some people even act like they re only able to clear the air in direct proportion to the rising pitch of their voices. But to each his own. The key is learning to realize when things have taken a turn from being a heated exchange to a potentially violent meltdown. As soon as you notice that tempers are burning well into the red, that s when you should excuse yourself, get some alone time, and regain your composure. Allowing the other party to do the same. On returning to the discussion slash argument, you might be pleasantly surprised to see how much more open you ve become to each other s points of view.
And that s one of the main lessons of anger management classes, that sometimes even worse than your actions, words have the power to wound. They can cut, scarring a lot deeper than you might realize. Oftentimes, lashing out at others is the organic consequence of the habit of attacking oneself. So, it s never too early, nor too late, to start developing greater self control. And having a support group of likeminded souls is always the best way to grow.
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