When your partner says that he/she wants a marriage separation, the first thing that comes into the other partners mind is how he/she will hire an attorney and hope to take everything so that the partner can regret ever asking for a divorce. To your surprise, things might work just the opposite compared to what you would have achieved in a mutually agreed upon split up.
In an uncontested separation, it requires both of you to sensibly accept that things will no longer be like they used to. For instance, the man cannot be angry if the wife decides to immediately move on and have another relationship because he will have lost any authority over her. You should, however, come into agreement that even after the separation, both of you do what is best for the children if any.
It really hurts to live trying to make your marriage work only to hear that your partner wants to dissolve it. This fact might make you to resist. Though you might be doing it for the right reasons, resisting will actually do you more harm than good.
Some people stay in bad marriages or resist divorce because they are afraid of losing their partner or they are afraid of what people will say. The other partner might take matters in court, and the actual fight will begin. Why would you prefer a third party decide on who should stay with your children?
Even in an uncontested split up, there is a need for each partner to hire an attorney. On appointing them, you should make them understand that the two of you are in agreement and you want to settle things amicably without involving the courts. An attorney ensures that there is fairness in the settlement which otherwise might see them end up in court.
The attorneys will check and see if the agreement is fair to their client especially when it comes to sensitive matters like child custody, spouse and child support and fair division of property. After that, it will be upon the attorneys to make sure that the agreement and request for a separation are filed in courts. In some cases but in different states, the appearance of the partners in court is required for hearing but other others just mail to you the final separation verdict.
It may seem like unopposed separation is a walk in the park, but in actual sense, it requires patience, understanding, humbleness and above all agreeing to disagree so you can come up with a solution that is good for the both of you. Failure to solve your differences might force you to go to court, and the ruling might end up not favouring you at all.
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