One of the most compelling reasons for couples to go their separate ways without contesting it is the money they will save. This may be easier for those who not been married for a long period of time. Couples who have been together for years are more likely to have assets that are a result of both individual's efforts. It can still be worked out however, if each partner feels any division is fair.
Divorces are stressful. When both partners are in agreement about most things, there is less drama and tension. Even sticky issues like child and pet custody can be worked out in harmony if everybody tries to behave like adults. Not only is this better for the couple involved, it helps all the members of the family.
It's a lot easier to control the process when the court system isn't involved. Couples who can work out differences and make compromises usually come to a more mutually satisfying conclusion than if they had allowed an impartial judge to make the decisions. Not only may you lose control over how assets are divided, the court may decide to make child custody rulings.
Going to court should be every divorcing couples last option. It is expensive, time consuming, and stressful. Those with privacy concerns will see their lives spread out in front of the judge, court clerks, law enforcement, and casual spectators. It will become public record. In the end, it is nearly impossible to completely satisfy either partner. If they had chosen to handle the split privately and amicably, each one might have come out with more of what they wanted.
Divorces are hard on children, no matter how sensitive the parents are. Kids know when couples argue, and many blame themselves. It is not unusual to see a high performing child suddenly get poor grades in school, start to make dangerous personal choices, and sometimes run away in an effort to get attention. Children need special help during this time that warring parents can't provide.
Divorcing by consent doesn't mean couples can eliminate the services of a good lawyer. Very few people actually know how the process works even if both partners are in agreement. There are official papers that have to be approved by the court, even if only one of the partners is in attendance. Having a lawyer will make the whole process go smoother and faster.
Divorces aren't easy. No one goes into a marriage expecting it to end after six months or forty years. If it is possible, separating amicably and with mutual respect is the best way to end one chapter and begin another.
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