Lots of guys have a difficult time going up to and hitting on women because guys have a mistaken belief that girls dislike being hit on. This is a myth that girls have actually perpetuated and a myth that guys have been completely fooled into. Belief in this fake myth causes most guys to despise and fear approaching and hitting on girls. He'll think, "Girls hate being hit on by men so if I approach to her, she'll think I'm a creep ..."
Many women will say they don't really like it or that it annoys them but the the truth is, women love being hit on. They love it and can't get enough of it. It is a great, quick stroke for their ego and self esteem. A random stranger approaching them and hitting on them verifies that they are in fact desirable since all women desire to feel desirable and attractive.
Most women, no matter how hot they are, will have some level of self consciousness and doubt about their attractiveness factor. The act of men hitting on them serves to alleviate those doubts and therefore corroborate their attractiveness.
If you have ever overheard women talking about how they hate being hit on or a female friend confessed to you how annoying it is, you've just witnessed the female psychology at work. Even though they secretly love it, they cannot explicitly admit to this. They have to hide it and pretend to dislike it because the female social dynamic demands it.
For girls (and guys to some extent), their perceived social status is of the utmost importance. They need to defend this social status within their group dynamic at all costs. They are in danger of being labeled as attention-mongers or sluts if they easily confess to enjoy being hit on. Labels such as these will decrease their social value and so has to be avoided at all costs.
In addition, if women disliked attention and being hit on, makeup would be a dead industry instead of the $170 billion dollar business it is. They would wear motel curtains and shapeless T-shirts, and the whole beauty industry would go bankrupt. There are those men, though, that have been duped into believing another myth. That women don't dress up for men, they dress up for other women.
There is some truth to this and it has to do with some kind of complicated social group dynamics that only sociologists can decipher. However, this means nothing in the greater scheme of attracting women because even if this is true, ultimately, this means women are competing with each other for male attention. They dress up for other women so that they can look better than them or outdo them, but for what purpose? Besides the psychological ego gratification type explanations, ultimately, they do this to compete for male validation and male attention.
There is a huge catch to this however. Women enjoy being hit on by genuine men hitting on them appropriately. If you think you can go up to any woman and say rubbish pickup lines or insulting, condescending sexual innuendos like "I like your butt" and think that they will like it, you are retarded. This is not hitting on women, this is being a chump that no woman will accept. Therefore, you need to learn the proper way to hit on women and the proper things to say.
Recognize, know, and believe that women want and love being hit on. They want you to come up to them and speak with them, assuming you look nice and you do it appropriately. Demolish the fake dogma in your mind that thinks that women will think you're a creep if you hit on them. By changing this mindset, you are halfway to success to hitting on women.
Many women will say they don't really like it or that it annoys them but the the truth is, women love being hit on. They love it and can't get enough of it. It is a great, quick stroke for their ego and self esteem. A random stranger approaching them and hitting on them verifies that they are in fact desirable since all women desire to feel desirable and attractive.
Most women, no matter how hot they are, will have some level of self consciousness and doubt about their attractiveness factor. The act of men hitting on them serves to alleviate those doubts and therefore corroborate their attractiveness.
If you have ever overheard women talking about how they hate being hit on or a female friend confessed to you how annoying it is, you've just witnessed the female psychology at work. Even though they secretly love it, they cannot explicitly admit to this. They have to hide it and pretend to dislike it because the female social dynamic demands it.
For girls (and guys to some extent), their perceived social status is of the utmost importance. They need to defend this social status within their group dynamic at all costs. They are in danger of being labeled as attention-mongers or sluts if they easily confess to enjoy being hit on. Labels such as these will decrease their social value and so has to be avoided at all costs.
In addition, if women disliked attention and being hit on, makeup would be a dead industry instead of the $170 billion dollar business it is. They would wear motel curtains and shapeless T-shirts, and the whole beauty industry would go bankrupt. There are those men, though, that have been duped into believing another myth. That women don't dress up for men, they dress up for other women.
There is some truth to this and it has to do with some kind of complicated social group dynamics that only sociologists can decipher. However, this means nothing in the greater scheme of attracting women because even if this is true, ultimately, this means women are competing with each other for male attention. They dress up for other women so that they can look better than them or outdo them, but for what purpose? Besides the psychological ego gratification type explanations, ultimately, they do this to compete for male validation and male attention.
There is a huge catch to this however. Women enjoy being hit on by genuine men hitting on them appropriately. If you think you can go up to any woman and say rubbish pickup lines or insulting, condescending sexual innuendos like "I like your butt" and think that they will like it, you are retarded. This is not hitting on women, this is being a chump that no woman will accept. Therefore, you need to learn the proper way to hit on women and the proper things to say.
Recognize, know, and believe that women want and love being hit on. They want you to come up to them and speak with them, assuming you look nice and you do it appropriately. Demolish the fake dogma in your mind that thinks that women will think you're a creep if you hit on them. By changing this mindset, you are halfway to success to hitting on women.
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