In this type of scenario, a text invitation would be most convenient. There also less shock should the girl reject an invitation to go out. Guys feel embarrassed when, after asking a girl for a date, she politely refuses.It is worse when she rejects him in front of his friends; with a text invitation, no one need know. Men do not like rejection and thus if a guy is going to text an invitation to a girl, he must word the text correctly.A man should never write a cursory note to a girl like she is one of his buddies, is not going to score him any points, regardless of whether she is interested or not.
Clearly, there are advantages to texting a girl asking for a date and as mentioned, above, it is becoming the norm rather than the exception.Guys, however, need to seriously consider how to ask a girl out over text before sending it. Obviously this text request is for the first date and thus very important. One silly mistake and a guy may see the girl of his dreams reject him.So, let's assume this "date asking text" is a follow-up text to the first one sent after meeting the girl. The guy can sense, through her replies, that she is interested in him and now he is ready to ask her out.
The first thing he needs to do is figure out where he is going to take her. Will it be a movie, a romantic dinner followed by a show or concert? This is very important. Just sending a text asking her out is not enough.She will quite possibly ask, "Where are we going?" She does not want, or need, to read a guy's return text with simply the word "Pub".
You will never have success with a woman if you are unsure about how to ask her out. The one thing that every guy should know is that a woman is attracted to confidence. This is why you should always be decisive when asking her out for the first time. However, you also have to make sure that you are not being too aggressive. This will just scare her away.
It might sound hard, but really try not to plan it out too much. There are certain details that should be known before taking the plunge. However, planning it out too much is like writing a script for something that should evolve on its own. All it will do is ensure that there is confusion when her responses are not expected or if there is a question that was not anticipated. This is really a time to go with the flow.
This is almost like a first date without having to ask her out. Spend the rest of the time you have with her just getting to know her. When she gets up to leave, ask her if she would like to meet up with you again sometime. Don't forget to get her phone number.
A big question I get from guys is when the right time to ask a girl out is. The main thing I tell them is that they better have established attraction with the girl first. If they simply just ask her out, out of the blue, without first developing a rapport with her, chances are the girl may be scared and not be interested. Showing your playful side. Girls do not like shy or introverted guys who don't seem fun. I mean, if a shy girl asked you out, would you want to spend time with her? Show her that you are a fun guy to be around. This could be having her see you with your friends, leading the conversation, or milling around a party talking to everyone. Girls are attracted to guys who are leaders, the "popular" guy. This will make her more interested in you.
Girls love having to chase a guy, which is why so many of them end of dating the "bad boy" types. Don't show that you're too into her right off the bat, or she will freak out and you'll scare her away.After establishing attraction, there are three key things I tell my friend to keep in mind when asking a girl out. Three things NOT to do:Ask her out to a movie or dinner. Since this has become the established "date" of our time, there are two things wrong with it. First, it's boring and predictable, and you don't want her thinking you're either. Secondly, it is now a DATE date, and that might put too much pressure on her.
Be too invested in if she says yes or no. This is kind of similar to the "being a challenge" thing I discussed above. If you let on that this is a big deal for you - that you're not going to be having fun with or without her - then she might feel too pressured and freaked out. Turn the scales around a bit. Make yourself think that it's her job to win YOU over.A lot of guys say things like "do you want to maybe do something one of these days?" Show your leadership ability by detailing exactly what you want to do with her and when. This works in your favor another way because you can plan the scenario, instead of letting her plan it, so you can show yourself off in the best light possible.
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