Full disclosure: This article is not going to put humans in the best light. But I'm going to go out on a limb here and openly suspect that you'd rather get laid by gorgeous girls than have your ego stroked, right?Humans are lazy. Incredibly lazy. We're always trying to get as much as we can, with as little effort as possible. This has always been true. Ever since monkeys started walking on their hind legs. Heck, even before that.
One way we're lazy is that we don't like to think. We really don't. That's why our brains have evolved all kind of short cuts. Social proof is one of those short cuts.If you see a crowd of people at some kind of restaurant, you can safely assume that you won't die from food poisoning, or get a bad deal, or have a bad time. Most of our decisions are made like this, whether we like it or not.
Dale Carnegie taught years ago that the simplest way to impress somebody is be impressed by them. He taught that the easiest way to become interesting is to first become interested. How do you do that? This is something that can't be faked. However, people are generally interesting. Learn how to ask open ended questions. These are questions that have to be answered with more than one word."Do you like sushi?" is not an opened ended question, as it can be answered with a simple yes or not.But a question like, "So, what kind of food do you usually like when you're hanging out with your friends?" is a much better question. It requires some thought, and a long answer.
What do you have? - No girl would be impressed by you unless you have something which is different from the rest. Girls normally get hit on by several men everyday and almost all those men try to impress them with all they've got. If you are doing and following the same tactics as all those men than you would never succeed in your quest to impress girls. Show your true self while trying to impress a girl and try to be your best self. Don't talk to her with the quest to impress rather try to do what you normally do. One of the best aspects which almost every girl demands and gets impressed by is intellectuality. Try to develop your intellectual skills. This can be done by the way to reading books and being up to date with the latest happenings. Remember being a good talker is the foundation of impressing almost any girl.
What you don't know yet- Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman’s mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say. They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Read on to discover some of the most "Shocking Secrets" women don't want men to know- 9 Most Shocking Secrets Women don't want men to know.
"Last week I had the most amazing time. We went to this amusement park. We were on this roller coaster, which was super high, and she said she felt like she was going to pass out!" Now, when you say this, put the emphasis on the amusement park, the roller coaster, and don't place too much emphasis on the "she." In fact, do the opposite. Act as if you are trying to hide it.She'll just assume you were with a girlfriend, or at least an attractive friend. Then later on, when you're telling more stories, even if you don't mention other people, she'll imagine all these girls that are with you.on't be a nice guy. This is obvious. Girls hate nice guys. You know this. Yet, some guys can't help but be nice. But what is the root of this behavior? Is this the best way if you want to know how to impress a girl?
So what if you can't afford a plane, or you can't afford flying lessons? You can still get the benefits by alluding to your "intentions" to become a pilot.For example, let's say she asks you what your hobbies are, and you say something like this:"Well, I like running and cycling, but next spring I've signed up for these flying lessons. After a hundred hours of flight time I'll get my license, then I've got to figure out what kind of plane to get."
Now, that sounds pretty good, right? Even if you don't have a nickel to your name, you can still make plans as if you did. And it sounds like you're well on your way to becoming ultra alpha man.However, this still avoids the question, and the main source of her attraction.Sure, girls dig guys that are high valued, have adventurous hobbies, and can face down certain death with ease. However, these are all just proxies for the kind of confidence she REALLY wants.Confidence in talking to her, about the real you.
But that jerk certainly will. Trouble with him is that he's not kind.Kindness is not niceness. Kindness is when you are comfortable in your own skin. You don't need to push people around.In evolutionary psychology, they call this the "dove-hawk" strategy. Friendly and passive until they're in danger, then they destroy everything in their path.Nice guys are always doves. Easy to walk all over. Safe, but not exciting.Jerks are hawks. Always fighting, always getting in people's faces, always ending up in jail.But kind guys are first doves, so long as everybody is polite. But they quickly turn into hawks if they need to. Speak softly and carry a big stick. Iron fist in a velvet glove.
When a girl asks a guy like this, what his hobbies are, he looks in her eyes with extreme confidence, and tells it like it is. Without reservation, without remorse.Video games? Knitting? Playing handball? Building models of WWII fighter planes? Doesn't matter.You appreciate yourself, you appreciate your hobbies, and you tell her about you as if you're letting her in on the greatest thing ever created.And she'll melt right into your arms.
One way we're lazy is that we don't like to think. We really don't. That's why our brains have evolved all kind of short cuts. Social proof is one of those short cuts.If you see a crowd of people at some kind of restaurant, you can safely assume that you won't die from food poisoning, or get a bad deal, or have a bad time. Most of our decisions are made like this, whether we like it or not.
Dale Carnegie taught years ago that the simplest way to impress somebody is be impressed by them. He taught that the easiest way to become interesting is to first become interested. How do you do that? This is something that can't be faked. However, people are generally interesting. Learn how to ask open ended questions. These are questions that have to be answered with more than one word."Do you like sushi?" is not an opened ended question, as it can be answered with a simple yes or not.But a question like, "So, what kind of food do you usually like when you're hanging out with your friends?" is a much better question. It requires some thought, and a long answer.
What do you have? - No girl would be impressed by you unless you have something which is different from the rest. Girls normally get hit on by several men everyday and almost all those men try to impress them with all they've got. If you are doing and following the same tactics as all those men than you would never succeed in your quest to impress girls. Show your true self while trying to impress a girl and try to be your best self. Don't talk to her with the quest to impress rather try to do what you normally do. One of the best aspects which almost every girl demands and gets impressed by is intellectuality. Try to develop your intellectual skills. This can be done by the way to reading books and being up to date with the latest happenings. Remember being a good talker is the foundation of impressing almost any girl.
What you don't know yet- Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman’s mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say. They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Read on to discover some of the most "Shocking Secrets" women don't want men to know- 9 Most Shocking Secrets Women don't want men to know.
"Last week I had the most amazing time. We went to this amusement park. We were on this roller coaster, which was super high, and she said she felt like she was going to pass out!" Now, when you say this, put the emphasis on the amusement park, the roller coaster, and don't place too much emphasis on the "she." In fact, do the opposite. Act as if you are trying to hide it.She'll just assume you were with a girlfriend, or at least an attractive friend. Then later on, when you're telling more stories, even if you don't mention other people, she'll imagine all these girls that are with you.on't be a nice guy. This is obvious. Girls hate nice guys. You know this. Yet, some guys can't help but be nice. But what is the root of this behavior? Is this the best way if you want to know how to impress a girl?
So what if you can't afford a plane, or you can't afford flying lessons? You can still get the benefits by alluding to your "intentions" to become a pilot.For example, let's say she asks you what your hobbies are, and you say something like this:"Well, I like running and cycling, but next spring I've signed up for these flying lessons. After a hundred hours of flight time I'll get my license, then I've got to figure out what kind of plane to get."
Now, that sounds pretty good, right? Even if you don't have a nickel to your name, you can still make plans as if you did. And it sounds like you're well on your way to becoming ultra alpha man.However, this still avoids the question, and the main source of her attraction.Sure, girls dig guys that are high valued, have adventurous hobbies, and can face down certain death with ease. However, these are all just proxies for the kind of confidence she REALLY wants.Confidence in talking to her, about the real you.
But that jerk certainly will. Trouble with him is that he's not kind.Kindness is not niceness. Kindness is when you are comfortable in your own skin. You don't need to push people around.In evolutionary psychology, they call this the "dove-hawk" strategy. Friendly and passive until they're in danger, then they destroy everything in their path.Nice guys are always doves. Easy to walk all over. Safe, but not exciting.Jerks are hawks. Always fighting, always getting in people's faces, always ending up in jail.But kind guys are first doves, so long as everybody is polite. But they quickly turn into hawks if they need to. Speak softly and carry a big stick. Iron fist in a velvet glove.
When a girl asks a guy like this, what his hobbies are, he looks in her eyes with extreme confidence, and tells it like it is. Without reservation, without remorse.Video games? Knitting? Playing handball? Building models of WWII fighter planes? Doesn't matter.You appreciate yourself, you appreciate your hobbies, and you tell her about you as if you're letting her in on the greatest thing ever created.And she'll melt right into your arms.
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