As the minutes turn into hours which turn into days since your ex broke up with you, your only thought is how to get your ex to feel the love that once burned brightly in their heart for you. There must be a way. There must be a solution. What should you do to heal your broken relationship? Your family and friends see your torment and the best advice that they can offer is for you to move on and forget about your ex.
You might not want to admit it but the advice to move on with your life is probably the best advice for you at this particular moment. This is not to say that you have to give up on your dream of getting back together with your ex. Your heart feels what it feels. You can't change that, but you can't continue to put your life on hold while you wait for your ex to realize that they love you again. Wasting weeks or months of your life waiting for the days to pass is a waste of time. You must do something to preserve your sanity. Improving your life in a big way and taking your mind off of your ex for a short while might be the greatest thing that you ever did in your life. This moment in time can change your life for the better.
Take advantage of this time apart from your ex and start a small business. The freedom of having your own business will be very attractive to your ex and the added income can make life easier when you get back together. If you have every thought of having your own business then this period in your life might be the perfect time to move forward with that plan.
The dream of owning your own business will be your focus for some time but as an added benefit, you will worry less about your ex. You will be doing something with your life instead of thinking about the problem of how to get your ex back. Often when we have a big problem such as a relationship that has headed south, we can't see the solution. Even though you might think that focusing on a solution is the logical way to solve this problem, we become so wrapped up in the drama and emotions surrounding the breakup that we become stuck. Also, all the attention that you are focusing upon your ex has a detrimental effect upon how they view you and feel about you. When a person becomes bigger than life or when we put them up on a pedestal, they usually shy away from us or flee from us. You will find that soon after you begin focusing on your business instead of your ex, they will have the freedom to love you again without the pressure that you were probably putting upon them.
Next, if you ever wanted to travel and experience different countries and cultures, this is the perfect time to both plan for those adventures as well as start living that dream. Let your mind wander and think about where you would like to visit. Would you ride horses on the beach in Mexico or would you live in the lap of luxury for a week on a cruise ship? Sit down and come up with a budget to make at least one of these dreams come true in the near future. Research where you want to go and allow yourself to become excited about the chance to get away and experience something new and exciting.
A little trick that you might want to try is to post a lot of photos of your journey to social networking sites that your ex might be using to check up on you with. Take photos of yourself traveling to your destination as well as some photos of yourself having a good time. The fact that you're happy and enjoying life will make your ex jealous. You might worry that your ex will be offended that you are happy without them but remember, it was their choice to leave. It wasn't your decision. Nothing bad is going to happen because you are enjoying life. Your ex will actually find you more attractive. If they do say anything about your trip you can simply explain that you were grieving and you needed to get away to clear your mind and improve your mood.
Your overall aim should be to improve yourself and your life. Self-improvement means making yourself feel better about your life and your place in this world. Meditation, yoga, working out and improving your mind and the amount of happiness in your life is what self-improvement is all about. Reading, taking a few classes at your local collage or finding a new hobby such as kayaking or horseback riding are a few ways that you can add something interesting to your life and feel better about yourself.
Distracting yourself from the pain and anguish from your breakup might not be easy at times but you'll find more success in getting your ex back as a result. Time will pass more quickly and you and your life will become more attractive to your ex. The pressure will be off so your ex will begin to miss you and feel that perhaps they have made a mistake in leaving you. You will appear strong and attractive. While your friends and family will be happy that you appear to have move on and left the pain from your breakup behind, they don't have to know that you still wish to get back together with your ex. It's really none of their business. It is your little secret. It is time for you to focus on your life, your happiness and your goals until that day comes when your ex becomes curious about you. It won't take long. You very well might be surprised by a text message or a phone call when you least expect it. That's how life works and attraction works. When we stop pushing, things start to fall into place.
You might not want to admit it but the advice to move on with your life is probably the best advice for you at this particular moment. This is not to say that you have to give up on your dream of getting back together with your ex. Your heart feels what it feels. You can't change that, but you can't continue to put your life on hold while you wait for your ex to realize that they love you again. Wasting weeks or months of your life waiting for the days to pass is a waste of time. You must do something to preserve your sanity. Improving your life in a big way and taking your mind off of your ex for a short while might be the greatest thing that you ever did in your life. This moment in time can change your life for the better.
Take advantage of this time apart from your ex and start a small business. The freedom of having your own business will be very attractive to your ex and the added income can make life easier when you get back together. If you have every thought of having your own business then this period in your life might be the perfect time to move forward with that plan.
The dream of owning your own business will be your focus for some time but as an added benefit, you will worry less about your ex. You will be doing something with your life instead of thinking about the problem of how to get your ex back. Often when we have a big problem such as a relationship that has headed south, we can't see the solution. Even though you might think that focusing on a solution is the logical way to solve this problem, we become so wrapped up in the drama and emotions surrounding the breakup that we become stuck. Also, all the attention that you are focusing upon your ex has a detrimental effect upon how they view you and feel about you. When a person becomes bigger than life or when we put them up on a pedestal, they usually shy away from us or flee from us. You will find that soon after you begin focusing on your business instead of your ex, they will have the freedom to love you again without the pressure that you were probably putting upon them.
Next, if you ever wanted to travel and experience different countries and cultures, this is the perfect time to both plan for those adventures as well as start living that dream. Let your mind wander and think about where you would like to visit. Would you ride horses on the beach in Mexico or would you live in the lap of luxury for a week on a cruise ship? Sit down and come up with a budget to make at least one of these dreams come true in the near future. Research where you want to go and allow yourself to become excited about the chance to get away and experience something new and exciting.
A little trick that you might want to try is to post a lot of photos of your journey to social networking sites that your ex might be using to check up on you with. Take photos of yourself traveling to your destination as well as some photos of yourself having a good time. The fact that you're happy and enjoying life will make your ex jealous. You might worry that your ex will be offended that you are happy without them but remember, it was their choice to leave. It wasn't your decision. Nothing bad is going to happen because you are enjoying life. Your ex will actually find you more attractive. If they do say anything about your trip you can simply explain that you were grieving and you needed to get away to clear your mind and improve your mood.
Your overall aim should be to improve yourself and your life. Self-improvement means making yourself feel better about your life and your place in this world. Meditation, yoga, working out and improving your mind and the amount of happiness in your life is what self-improvement is all about. Reading, taking a few classes at your local collage or finding a new hobby such as kayaking or horseback riding are a few ways that you can add something interesting to your life and feel better about yourself.
Distracting yourself from the pain and anguish from your breakup might not be easy at times but you'll find more success in getting your ex back as a result. Time will pass more quickly and you and your life will become more attractive to your ex. The pressure will be off so your ex will begin to miss you and feel that perhaps they have made a mistake in leaving you. You will appear strong and attractive. While your friends and family will be happy that you appear to have move on and left the pain from your breakup behind, they don't have to know that you still wish to get back together with your ex. It's really none of their business. It is your little secret. It is time for you to focus on your life, your happiness and your goals until that day comes when your ex becomes curious about you. It won't take long. You very well might be surprised by a text message or a phone call when you least expect it. That's how life works and attraction works. When we stop pushing, things start to fall into place.
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