If you are dreaming of a relationship without challenges, you are wrong. This is because; it is healthy and expected that spouses disagree at one point of their relationship. The difference, between the working relationships and those that does not work is the way different spouses handle disagreement between them. If you are not able to talk out your differences with your spouse amicably, you can apply the following techniques to see if they will work for you.
One way of encouraging your spouse to talk is by initiating a dialogue and remaining focused. It is common to find some spouses trying to play the hero. Though they know that they have a problem they are supposed to solve, none of them calls the other for dialogue. Starting the dialogue can help you solve your issues with ease. You also need to ensure that you are not focusing on the past mistakes. Concentrate on the current problem and let the past go.
You cannot achieve much, if none of you wants to listen to the other. This is because; talking involves listening as well. If you want to understand what your spouse is saying, you will need to take some time to listen. Just as you want your spouse to listen to you, you will also need to stay calm and listen to him or her talk.
One cause of argument and misunderstanding is when spouses are not willing to reason together. This happens when none of them wants to see the other point of view. They therefore waste a lot of time trying to articulate their points. If your spouse is not willing to see your point, and you still refuse to see his or her point, chances are the disagreement will intensify. Be selfless and try seeing your spouses point of view.
If your spouse criticizes you, consider accepting the critics rather than defend yourself. This is because; defending yourself will only lead to lack of agreement between you and your spouse. Due to anger, your spouse may criticize you wrongly. In such a case, take the genuine accusation, and work towards rectifying rather than resist the accusations.
It is sad that some spouses work towards winning a disagreement, rather than find lasting solution to the problem. However, competing cannot help in building a lasting relationship. Try finding a solution, even if t means compromising. You only need to make sure that you make a decision that will leave both of you happy and satisfied.
Some people deal with any issue regarding their relationship emotionally. This is why you find that, instead of working towards initiating communication skills for couples in their relationship, they prefer giving up on their spouses. However, this should be the last option. Talk with your spouse and try to find a solution to your problems.
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