Feeling weak as a man after a breakup can be a common feeling. Not many of us guys have come through a breakup without shedding a few tears and the emotions involved with having someone you love reject you can be devastating. The frustration that comes along with knowing that you could make things right if your girlfriend or wife would just listen to you can add to your pain. If you had a choice, you would probably choose some sort of physical pain over this emotional pain. In such a case, you would know how long the healing process would take and you could plan accordingly. In the case of emotional pain, you have no idea if it will ever end or it feels this way at the moment.
Whether you were married to the woman that you love or she was just your girlfriend, the pain is no different. The healing process and the process of restoring your relationship should also be no different. Women are women and whether you had a piece of paper saying that you would be together forever or not, there was probably a time when both of you said or wished that you would be together until the end of time. Getting over your pain, rebuilding your self-confidence and getting her back will be the same no matter if we are talking about a wayward wife or girlfriend. It also doesn't matter what is going on in her life. It doesn't matter if she is with some other guy or not. You will see that these methods which are loosely based upon what is suggested to get a combat soldier through stress will help you to get your ex back more quickly than you might otherwise think.
First, you are going to process your emotions and in a very matter of fact manner you're going to run through everything that happened. This is called a debriefing. You can be upset all you want beforehand but as soon as you have time you are going to sit yourself down and in a factual manner, recount what happened in the past. You're going to discuss what you did wrong, what you would have done differently as well as what your ex did to you. You're going to put it all in the past and learn from your mistakes.
Putting events of the past where they belong is important. Often we try to fix things by reliving the past. We mourn the loss and beat our self up wishing that we had done things differently. We can't go back. We can only go forward. There should be a certain freedom that you will feel once you decompress and debrief from what happened. There's nothing you can do about the past other than to make sure that you don't make the same mistakes again.
Next comes the rebuilding process. There should be rest and relaxation after you go through a stressful situation. It is time to celebrate that you survived what you went through. You will live to fight another day. You will get your second chance but only once you have regained your strength and and you have a positive attitude. You might have to blow off a little steam first. This means doing things that will make you happy.
Be careful and try to avoid many of the antics that most soldiers go through when they're on leave. Avoid drinking too much since this often leads to text messaging or calling your ex. Alcohol is a depressant and while you might feel awesome at the beginning of the night, there's a good chance that you could become melancholy and do something crazy like call your ex to tell her how much you love her or show up at her house. During this phase you want to avoid contacting your ex. Instead, think of blowing off some steam by spending time with your friends or getting out of town for a long weekend. Go to the beach or the mountains or wherever it is that you go to recharge your batteries.
When you return, it will be time to rebuild yourself and your life. You must focus on your mental strength, your emotional strength as well as your physical body. Take advantage of this time apart from your girlfriend or wife. Take a closer look at how she behaves, acts, feels and loves. Learn a little bit about female psychology and begin to understand why women behave the way that they do when they're in a relationship. Look at this as intelligence gathering. We, as men, are logical and calculating in how we perform tasks and solve problems. Women are emotional and driven by their feelings and instincts. Once you understand this, you will be better prepared to win her back in a stealthy yet effective manner.
At this moment right now, you might still feel emotional and doubtful that she is every going to come back. That's fine. This is to be expected. You're still in an emotional state. Once you begin to feel better and you regain your self-confidence, you will understand that getting your girlfriend or wife to fall in love with you again isn't very difficult. If you are able to focus on her emotions while appearing strong and confident, she will fall in love with you again for sure. Remember that you're the man in the relationship and that she wants you to be the man. Avoid the temptation of letting your own emotions play a role in your decision making process and you will find that getting her back isn't very difficult at all.
Whether you were married to the woman that you love or she was just your girlfriend, the pain is no different. The healing process and the process of restoring your relationship should also be no different. Women are women and whether you had a piece of paper saying that you would be together forever or not, there was probably a time when both of you said or wished that you would be together until the end of time. Getting over your pain, rebuilding your self-confidence and getting her back will be the same no matter if we are talking about a wayward wife or girlfriend. It also doesn't matter what is going on in her life. It doesn't matter if she is with some other guy or not. You will see that these methods which are loosely based upon what is suggested to get a combat soldier through stress will help you to get your ex back more quickly than you might otherwise think.
First, you are going to process your emotions and in a very matter of fact manner you're going to run through everything that happened. This is called a debriefing. You can be upset all you want beforehand but as soon as you have time you are going to sit yourself down and in a factual manner, recount what happened in the past. You're going to discuss what you did wrong, what you would have done differently as well as what your ex did to you. You're going to put it all in the past and learn from your mistakes.
Putting events of the past where they belong is important. Often we try to fix things by reliving the past. We mourn the loss and beat our self up wishing that we had done things differently. We can't go back. We can only go forward. There should be a certain freedom that you will feel once you decompress and debrief from what happened. There's nothing you can do about the past other than to make sure that you don't make the same mistakes again.
Next comes the rebuilding process. There should be rest and relaxation after you go through a stressful situation. It is time to celebrate that you survived what you went through. You will live to fight another day. You will get your second chance but only once you have regained your strength and and you have a positive attitude. You might have to blow off a little steam first. This means doing things that will make you happy.
Be careful and try to avoid many of the antics that most soldiers go through when they're on leave. Avoid drinking too much since this often leads to text messaging or calling your ex. Alcohol is a depressant and while you might feel awesome at the beginning of the night, there's a good chance that you could become melancholy and do something crazy like call your ex to tell her how much you love her or show up at her house. During this phase you want to avoid contacting your ex. Instead, think of blowing off some steam by spending time with your friends or getting out of town for a long weekend. Go to the beach or the mountains or wherever it is that you go to recharge your batteries.
When you return, it will be time to rebuild yourself and your life. You must focus on your mental strength, your emotional strength as well as your physical body. Take advantage of this time apart from your girlfriend or wife. Take a closer look at how she behaves, acts, feels and loves. Learn a little bit about female psychology and begin to understand why women behave the way that they do when they're in a relationship. Look at this as intelligence gathering. We, as men, are logical and calculating in how we perform tasks and solve problems. Women are emotional and driven by their feelings and instincts. Once you understand this, you will be better prepared to win her back in a stealthy yet effective manner.
At this moment right now, you might still feel emotional and doubtful that she is every going to come back. That's fine. This is to be expected. You're still in an emotional state. Once you begin to feel better and you regain your self-confidence, you will understand that getting your girlfriend or wife to fall in love with you again isn't very difficult. If you are able to focus on her emotions while appearing strong and confident, she will fall in love with you again for sure. Remember that you're the man in the relationship and that she wants you to be the man. Avoid the temptation of letting your own emotions play a role in your decision making process and you will find that getting her back isn't very difficult at all.
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