There's nothing unusual about your desire to get back together with your girlfriend or wife after a breakup. You love her and she was a part of your life every day for some time until things began to get weird. Every man that has ever been dumped has been where you are and even the strongest man alive would probably tell you that it affected his self-esteem and his life, in general. What you need to know is that your ability to get back up, brush yourself off and make some changes is important if you are serious about winning your ex back. This includes your attitude. You will find that attitude means everything when we're talking about relationships and especially your relationship with your wife or girlfriend after a breakup.
While you might want to try all the typical methods to win your girlfriend or wife back, without attraction and desire on her part, your attempts will be fruitless. If you have already tried to convince her to come back to you then you have probably done some damage. If you have been highly emotional or even begged her to give you another chance, this can be overcome. Don't worry. It is important that you allow her to come to you, though. This means that you shouldn't be contacting your ex until you have your confidence back. Typically, a good rule of thumb is that you shouldn't contact your ex until the day comes when you no longer feel the urge to contact her.
Your primary focus now is to change how your ex-girlfriend or potential future ex-wife thinks about you. This is going to require you to change your general attitude towards her and women overall. What will this attitude be like? Your attitude should be one where you are unwilling to tolerate being talked down to or treated in any way that makes you feel uncomfortable. If your ex does make you feel uncomfortable or upset, you need to be willing ahead of time to walk away both from the relationship as well as the conversation. Always keep this in mind and remind yourself of this new attitude and it will be felt by your ex-girlfriend if not seen by her the next time she starts treating you poorly.
Along with this new attitude you need to put any thought out of your mind that concerns how she will react to your new attitude. It's going to be a little shocking for her, that's for sure. If she is accustomed to yelling at you or calling you names, she is accustomed to holding all the power in the relationship. If, in the past, you stood there and took this abuse or if you tried to argue with her or explain yourself, those days are through. From now on, you will remind her that she is not your partner, girlfriend or wife. She relinquished that title and the right to state her opinion about anything when she left you. You will turn and literally walk away from the conversation and take that power with you. She will do one of two things. She will either come after you immediately and apologize or she will think about what just happened for a while. She will then have gained some respect for you as a man and the process of falling in love with you will begin.
Next, never let your girlfriend or wife see you upset, sad or depressed. You always want your ex to see you at your best. This means that your physical appearance is tidy and clean. You have a smile on your face and your body posture and body language says that you are happy. You have a renewed zest for life. You have goals and dreams as well as the ability to achieve anything that you set your mind to. While the breakup was devastating to you, your life is actually better now that you no longer worry about what she thinks of you. You're free to do what you want with your life.
Push aside any fear that you might have that your ex will be upset by your new persona. You may think that you need to be sad or depressed so your ex will know that you miss them. You might fear that being happy would somehow tell your ex that you don't love her anymore. You are not in control of what she thinks and it might be a good thing is she worries that you are moving on without her. If she wants to know, she can ask you. You have a life to live and you can't be expected to sit around like a hurt puppy waiting for her to come back into your life so you can live. Your world doesn't revolve around her anymore. Your world revolves around you and your dreams.
Along with all of this, you need to back up your claims to being so happy and loving life with something real. What are you doing? What is your life all about? It's time that you solidified your goals and dreams and wrote them down. You have wasted enough time being sad. It's time for you to be happy. What makes you happy? What do you want to achieve in your life? Do you want to travel the world? Have you always dreamed about being wealthy? How are you going to get there? What do you dream about when you're feeling good and you feel that you can achieve anything? Write it down and start making plans for how you're going to achieve these goals. Whether your girlfriend or wife is a part of that dream is up to you.
Change your attitude and you can change your life. Change your attitude and you will begin to see changes in your ex. Push aside the fear of what your ex is going to think or do and start living your life for yourself. Make yourself happy and your ex will be drawn to you in a way that they may have never been attracted to you before. You are a man on a mission and it's up to you who enjoys this journey with you. Your ex should consider herself lucky that you still love her. She will understand one day soon. She will see the real you and want to come back to you. It could happen at any time so be prepared for her to come back when you least expect it.
While you might want to try all the typical methods to win your girlfriend or wife back, without attraction and desire on her part, your attempts will be fruitless. If you have already tried to convince her to come back to you then you have probably done some damage. If you have been highly emotional or even begged her to give you another chance, this can be overcome. Don't worry. It is important that you allow her to come to you, though. This means that you shouldn't be contacting your ex until you have your confidence back. Typically, a good rule of thumb is that you shouldn't contact your ex until the day comes when you no longer feel the urge to contact her.
Your primary focus now is to change how your ex-girlfriend or potential future ex-wife thinks about you. This is going to require you to change your general attitude towards her and women overall. What will this attitude be like? Your attitude should be one where you are unwilling to tolerate being talked down to or treated in any way that makes you feel uncomfortable. If your ex does make you feel uncomfortable or upset, you need to be willing ahead of time to walk away both from the relationship as well as the conversation. Always keep this in mind and remind yourself of this new attitude and it will be felt by your ex-girlfriend if not seen by her the next time she starts treating you poorly.
Along with this new attitude you need to put any thought out of your mind that concerns how she will react to your new attitude. It's going to be a little shocking for her, that's for sure. If she is accustomed to yelling at you or calling you names, she is accustomed to holding all the power in the relationship. If, in the past, you stood there and took this abuse or if you tried to argue with her or explain yourself, those days are through. From now on, you will remind her that she is not your partner, girlfriend or wife. She relinquished that title and the right to state her opinion about anything when she left you. You will turn and literally walk away from the conversation and take that power with you. She will do one of two things. She will either come after you immediately and apologize or she will think about what just happened for a while. She will then have gained some respect for you as a man and the process of falling in love with you will begin.
Next, never let your girlfriend or wife see you upset, sad or depressed. You always want your ex to see you at your best. This means that your physical appearance is tidy and clean. You have a smile on your face and your body posture and body language says that you are happy. You have a renewed zest for life. You have goals and dreams as well as the ability to achieve anything that you set your mind to. While the breakup was devastating to you, your life is actually better now that you no longer worry about what she thinks of you. You're free to do what you want with your life.
Push aside any fear that you might have that your ex will be upset by your new persona. You may think that you need to be sad or depressed so your ex will know that you miss them. You might fear that being happy would somehow tell your ex that you don't love her anymore. You are not in control of what she thinks and it might be a good thing is she worries that you are moving on without her. If she wants to know, she can ask you. You have a life to live and you can't be expected to sit around like a hurt puppy waiting for her to come back into your life so you can live. Your world doesn't revolve around her anymore. Your world revolves around you and your dreams.
Along with all of this, you need to back up your claims to being so happy and loving life with something real. What are you doing? What is your life all about? It's time that you solidified your goals and dreams and wrote them down. You have wasted enough time being sad. It's time for you to be happy. What makes you happy? What do you want to achieve in your life? Do you want to travel the world? Have you always dreamed about being wealthy? How are you going to get there? What do you dream about when you're feeling good and you feel that you can achieve anything? Write it down and start making plans for how you're going to achieve these goals. Whether your girlfriend or wife is a part of that dream is up to you.
Change your attitude and you can change your life. Change your attitude and you will begin to see changes in your ex. Push aside the fear of what your ex is going to think or do and start living your life for yourself. Make yourself happy and your ex will be drawn to you in a way that they may have never been attracted to you before. You are a man on a mission and it's up to you who enjoys this journey with you. Your ex should consider herself lucky that you still love her. She will understand one day soon. She will see the real you and want to come back to you. It could happen at any time so be prepared for her to come back when you least expect it.
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