It is true that young women might not be as stable or predictable as you are used to but there is an explanation for that. You might already have figured out that young women make decisions based upon what they feel instead of by thinking things through logically. A young woman might say that she made a decision based upon her instincts. This is her heart talking. This means that she is making life decisions based upon her feelings. This can be a bit of a double edged sword if you are not prepared for it. This decision making trait means that while things might not go so well for you if you aren't prepared to work with her in this manner.
For instance, let's say that she's feeling bad because some guy, a girlfriend or even her family doesn't approve of your relationship. Someone has said something to her and she's taken it to heart. You feel that something is wrong and she's distant or she is even ignoring you. Try not to react. Don't try to convince her of anything. Show her that you're her strong man. Things like this don't bother you. Support her, make her laugh, make her smile and draw her closer to you. Do not let this stuff get to you and don't freak out. Be yourself, be confident and make her think about happier times. Remind her of a time when the two of you were happy or a romantic place that you went and tell her that you want to go there again.
While it is true that sometimes dating a younger woman can be like trying to put toothpaste back into the tube when things go sideways, it's also true that if you understand her you can help her to feel the way that she wants to feel. That is, you can make her feel safe, secure, loved, appreciated and mature. While younger women might be flighty at times and prone to suggestion from friends and family members, they are not quite as damaged as women your own age. As quickly as they might flake out on you they will also become attached to you just as quickly.
Keep in mind that the guys that she is used to dating behave the same way if not worse. This is a huge benefit to you. Guys her age will become attracted to her one day and then forget about her the next. If she is at all attractive, she has been disappointed buy guys every single time. You are different though. You are her rock and you understand her in a way that no other guy every has. You love her in spite of her sometimes bad behavior and this will earn you bonus points. Her trust for you is important so if you are stable and trustworthy she will feel safe with you. There are going to be people who are going to treat her rudely. People will give her a hard time about your age difference but if she is happy and she feels that she can come to you when she's struggling then she'll be able to see that they're just jealous. She will feel strong and protected when she's with you and eventually the comments won't bother her at all.
Dating a younger women doesn't have to be complicated. It doesn't have to be stressful. Once you understand where a woman is coming from, no matter what her age might be, spending time with her and eventually falling in love is easy. The match between younger women and older men is a logical one and there are many examples of successful relationships between older men and younger women. Think outside the box and strive to understand her and you will see that she has a lot to offer in a relationship that might have been lacking in the relationships that you formerly had. Keep in mind that she's not like women your own age and you're not like the boys she is accustomed to dating and you'll be alright.
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