Are your words and actions taken out of context by your ex and used against you? Do you feel like your ex is living in a totally different reality and you feel like you simply can't win? How can you straighten things out and get back to that loving relationship that you both once shared? How can you turn things around and make your ex see that you truly love them with all your heart?
Often when a guy breaks up with you he does become like a small child. You can use this little known fact of male psychology to work in your favor though. It becomes almost entertaining when you think about it. Just like a bad little boy, your ex boyfriend is probably upset and angry and he refuses to see anything your way. If you were to say that something is white he will insist that it's black. If you try to explain anything to him or discuss any aspect of your breakup or even be nice to him he will throw a fit and reject you. This is why you need to understand male psychology and use it against him if you hope to get him back.
Right now your ex has it in their mind that your only goal is to get back together. Any promises that you make or words that you speak are tainted by your seeming desire to posess them and get back together with them. They made a decision and any attempt to circumvent that decision is met with resistance. The harder you try, the worse things are going to get. No matter what you say or do, your ex is going to resist you and their logic will always be tainted by that one thought. You just want to get back together.
To end his temper tantrum the best thing that you can do is to ignore it and go about your business. A wise parent keeps calm and either sends a child to their room or to sit somewhere so they can wind down and realise that their bad behavior isn't getting them the reaction that they were hoping for. Then, a really smart parent will begin doing something interesting to get that child's attention. Once the child is done being bad, they will come to the parent and want to be part of the interesting activity.
Of course, simply throwing a bunch of picture of the two of you together in their face isn't going to get you that desire. Remember that right now your ex is only thinking that you're trying to manipulate them. This is why it is necessary to allow your ex to cool off a bit. Give them some time. Allow a short amount of time to pass and heal those open wounds.
Take advantage of this time apart and while you're waiting for time to do its healing thing, begin to create a life that will be attractive to your ex. Start doing things that you think that your ex might want to do. Even little things like going somewhere during the weekend or making some changes to your house are enough to get their interest. Start working out or studying something new.
Even though this is only a rough outline of a succcessful plan to get your ex boyfriend back, understanding male psychology and using it to change his mind is the only way to go. Talking about the problems in the relationship rarely works and those methods will never change his mind. Only by creating a life that he would want to be part of will change his heart and make him fall in love with you again. Try it and see what kind of results you get. Getting your ex boyfriend back doesn't have to be difficult.
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