When do you decide it is time to seek a therapist? There are many reasons why you would consider seeking professional help. For some, lack of connection, growing apart or unresolved conflicts and arguments are the tipping point. In addition, stress and major life changes such as disability or weight issues may strain a relationship. Bottom line, see a therapist when you feel that neither of you can fix it.
You need to understand the importance of early counseling. Just like diseases, early detection and treatment also helps save a relationship. Marriages or long term or short term relationships are seriously hurt when partners wait for too long before seeking professional help. In most scenarios, they end up separating, breaking up or divorcing which is sad because it would have been salvaged if they had gone to a counselor early enough.
Many people wonder how counseling helps their relationship. The solution is a combination of problem solving tools that counselors are equipped with. The tools help the partners undercover their underlying problem. The underlying problems are the cause of many troubles in relationships and most couples are not able to see that. The goal of therapy is to undercover the main issue and resolve it in order to solve all other troubles arising from it.
What should you expect in a therapy session? During the first or second session, the counselor will interview the partners in a bid to understand the underlying problem. The interview will be individual and also when both parties are present. When this has happened, the counselor gives feedback on what he or she thinks is the underlying problem and proposes a treatment plan.
You and your partner have to agree to the plan of action recommended for therapy to begin. It may last twelve sessions depending on the situation since peoples needs vary. After the fourth or maybe the fifth session, subtle progress may be noticed if the treatment is working. For instance, there might be fewer arguments and you feel more connected.
Just like it is important to get the right doctor to treat you, it is imperative to find the right therapist. It is advised that you make an appointment with a counselor who has at least counseled married people. The reason is that they have probably seen the worst and helped people in really bad situations. Chances are they will do the same for you. Get referrals of licensed and registered counselors from your friends, doctors or even clergy.
Lastly, do not give up on your partner or relationship just yet. There is still hope if you visit a competent therapist. Many others have been in a similar or worse position and they continue to be together. There are very many stories of success out there. Put on a positive mentality and be optimistic, it will work out.
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