It's likely to happen. Sometimes you can't do anything to stop it. There are bound to be a few disagreements when a pair of individual people come together. But it's totally natural. But we know it's hard to get over a fight when you are so far apart, so we've outlined a few suggestions below to help you through the situation.
During The Argument
Pick Your Words With Care
Often when 2 people get into an intense disagreement they totally lose control and they sometimes say things to each other that they wouldn't even dream of saying in a normal conversation. We understand you will be very mad at each other. And it could totally be their fault. And you may be totally be perfect too. But remember to choose your words thoughtfully. Be sure to take some long deep breaths and think it over before saying anything that could jeopardise the relationship. This will definitely assist in the making up process, and most important help to shield your companions feelings.
Don't Chat Too Much Until You Are Both Calm
It's no good talking to them while you are still upset with your lover. It's probably best to quit all communication until you both have calmed down and are ready to make up with one another. No phone calls. No text messages. No Skype.
When Making Up
Forget About Placing The Blame
It's not about whose fault it is. It's about what the issue is, and how to handle it. If you argue over something that they don't like about you, then it could be time to change the something they don't like. A number of people have an, "I won't change for anyone" attitude in a relationship. While research has shown us that the ones that do change are the ones that have a stronger relationship with each other.
Remember You Are Both On The Same Side
As you grow closer together, you have to learn to make decisions together. These choices will determine your future. You are both in the relationship because you love each other, and you both want the same positive final result. Just remember that you are each on the same team.
Send An Apology Letter
A nice touch after you have made up is to mail your companion a letter saying that you are sorry for hurting their feelings. Try to make your feelings about the argument known, but remember to let your lover know that you do not want to argue anymore. Possibly send a present along with it, or a photo that will help remind them of a joyful time you both spent together.
During The Argument
Pick Your Words With Care
Often when 2 people get into an intense disagreement they totally lose control and they sometimes say things to each other that they wouldn't even dream of saying in a normal conversation. We understand you will be very mad at each other. And it could totally be their fault. And you may be totally be perfect too. But remember to choose your words thoughtfully. Be sure to take some long deep breaths and think it over before saying anything that could jeopardise the relationship. This will definitely assist in the making up process, and most important help to shield your companions feelings.
Don't Chat Too Much Until You Are Both Calm
It's no good talking to them while you are still upset with your lover. It's probably best to quit all communication until you both have calmed down and are ready to make up with one another. No phone calls. No text messages. No Skype.
When Making Up
Forget About Placing The Blame
It's not about whose fault it is. It's about what the issue is, and how to handle it. If you argue over something that they don't like about you, then it could be time to change the something they don't like. A number of people have an, "I won't change for anyone" attitude in a relationship. While research has shown us that the ones that do change are the ones that have a stronger relationship with each other.
Remember You Are Both On The Same Side
As you grow closer together, you have to learn to make decisions together. These choices will determine your future. You are both in the relationship because you love each other, and you both want the same positive final result. Just remember that you are each on the same team.
Send An Apology Letter
A nice touch after you have made up is to mail your companion a letter saying that you are sorry for hurting their feelings. Try to make your feelings about the argument known, but remember to let your lover know that you do not want to argue anymore. Possibly send a present along with it, or a photo that will help remind them of a joyful time you both spent together.
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