Some people face volatile relationships on a day to day basis. Nothing could be harder than constantly dealing with living in an unstable situation. Then it goes cold and the communication ends. What is next?
Women tend to blame themselves when something goes wrong in the relationship, especially in the beginning when everything was going so well. Because they are run by emotion, they get upset thinking that they must have caused this sudden pullback by their partner.
He stops communicating; the calls and texts have suddenly stopped. The first thing women think it that he's upset with her but not saying why. Her imagination goes off the charts about what she must have done to cause this.
She wonders why he hasn't called lately and blames herself. She wonders if the relationship is over or maybe he really has someone else that she doesn't know about. She wonders what she may have said or done that caused him to change his pattern.
At this point, women tend to over-contact him which is not the correct response. Her concern is real, but, when she gets no response, she becomes overly anxious and doesn't know what to do except keep trying to contact him. This is not what should happen at this point.
This is the point where women need to pull back and assess the reality of the situation before making any more moves at all. Usually, they have been the one initiating the calls/texts and when they suddenly stop, fear sets in that he's gone. They need to take a huge break from this in a big way.
It is time to pull back and reverse the power. In other words, let him do the chasing. It can be accomplished, if he is ignored. Men hate when they are not getting the responses they expect.
- Stop trying to contact him at all
- Go back to your old life and socialize for a while
- Don't respond right away with calls or texts
- Don't sit sit by the phone
- Go into stealth mode
If he contacts you and wants to come over 'tonight' tell him you have other plans or that you are too tired. This will encourage him to plan ahead and have respect for you and the relationship. He needs to learn to work for what he wants and not have it just be given to him whenever he wants attention from you.
When he pulls back, you need to pull back farther during this time period. This will be his wake up call that you are not just sitting around waiting for him. Get busy, make plans and go out and have a good time with friends and co-workers. He needs to learn to plan ahead to spend time with you.
Smart women know how to catch and keep men. The number one rule is to let him do the pursuing and to make him think you don't need him. That will not only peak his interest but make him charge after his challenge.
Women tend to blame themselves when something goes wrong in the relationship, especially in the beginning when everything was going so well. Because they are run by emotion, they get upset thinking that they must have caused this sudden pullback by their partner.
He stops communicating; the calls and texts have suddenly stopped. The first thing women think it that he's upset with her but not saying why. Her imagination goes off the charts about what she must have done to cause this.
She wonders why he hasn't called lately and blames herself. She wonders if the relationship is over or maybe he really has someone else that she doesn't know about. She wonders what she may have said or done that caused him to change his pattern.
At this point, women tend to over-contact him which is not the correct response. Her concern is real, but, when she gets no response, she becomes overly anxious and doesn't know what to do except keep trying to contact him. This is not what should happen at this point.
This is the point where women need to pull back and assess the reality of the situation before making any more moves at all. Usually, they have been the one initiating the calls/texts and when they suddenly stop, fear sets in that he's gone. They need to take a huge break from this in a big way.
It is time to pull back and reverse the power. In other words, let him do the chasing. It can be accomplished, if he is ignored. Men hate when they are not getting the responses they expect.
- Stop trying to contact him at all
- Go back to your old life and socialize for a while
- Don't respond right away with calls or texts
- Don't sit sit by the phone
- Go into stealth mode
If he contacts you and wants to come over 'tonight' tell him you have other plans or that you are too tired. This will encourage him to plan ahead and have respect for you and the relationship. He needs to learn to work for what he wants and not have it just be given to him whenever he wants attention from you.
When he pulls back, you need to pull back farther during this time period. This will be his wake up call that you are not just sitting around waiting for him. Get busy, make plans and go out and have a good time with friends and co-workers. He needs to learn to plan ahead to spend time with you.
Smart women know how to catch and keep men. The number one rule is to let him do the pursuing and to make him think you don't need him. That will not only peak his interest but make him charge after his challenge.
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