Of course, you do not have to stop working, skip paying bills, or forget about your kids in prioritizing your relationship. Just like doing tasks at work, you need to have a systemic scheme to prioritize each in a balanced way. If you commit yourself to spend at least 8 hours alone together with your partner every week, you must have a timetable where you can organize tasks and other things that you need to do.
Scheduling Your Activities
Marriage counseling will teach you how to schedule your activities. This will help you figure out a way to spend more time in your marriage. Here are the steps in laying out a schedule for you and your partner to do the things that are needed to build your marriage.
* Have a calendar (it could be in your organizer, or mobile application) where you could write down the activities you have to do in a day.
* Write down household chores, work activities, family activities, and other things that take your time.
* Now, you can easily lay out the day and the time when you and your partner can spend time together.
* The time together may include activities such as lunch or dinner dates, drinking coffee in a cafe, watching a movie, or spending time without any electronic devices.
For starters, try to have at least eight hours in your "alone" time with your partner. As your marriage counseling program progresses, you can extend this time. In fact, other couples are able to spend time together more than 15 hours. Getting eight hours for your marriage isn't something impossible to accomplish.
Make Agreements
You and your partner have different daily routines. Thus, it's very important to lay out the schedule for your "alone" time together. Instead of finding time, you need to make time for your marriage. To do this, you make agreements and stick to them. Once you get the hang of it, making time for each other becomes easier.
Follow The Ground Rules
Marriage counseling provides the ground rules in making agreements in scheduling your priorities. Nagging and blaming one another are things that you must avoid. Instead, try to make loving discussions regarding the things that you have to settle. When you do this, the activity won't become a chore, but a fulfilling routine instead.
You must understand that it takes time to build your marriage. If you have serious problems, a day of marriage counseling won't make everything okay. It is a process that both of you have to go through. Following the ground rules is going to make it easier so it has to be observed in the program.
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