If you think you can just learn a secret system or technique and succeed with women, you're in for a rude awakening. You can remember a ton of lines and routines and go out and approach girls. This will be successful just to break the ice and get your foot in the door. To successfully pickup girls, you have to emotionally involve a girl, and not just use mechanical techniques.
Many guys have the misconception that pickup techniques are just about dropping lines, gimmicks, and routines. Ultimately though, successfully attracting a woman is about making a unique emotional connection between you two. It's not just about the lines you're spouting or the techniques you're dropping but you have to adjust and adapt to the kind of person she is, what she's thinking, and what she's feeling. This is what is known to pickup artists as "calibration."
After you have actually approached a girl and successfully opened the door, you need to quickly shift in to demonstrating your high value. In other words, you have to emotionally engage a woman and bring her in to your reality. There are 3 main ways to do this:
A) Cocky/Funny.
This is acting cocky in a funny way. Not being outright rude or a clown, but being smart and confident in what you say. The following is a very basic sequence of a cocky/funny sequence:
You: So what was your name once more?
Girl: Cathy.
You: Nice name, you spell that with a C or K?
Woman: K.
You: Are you serious? Haha, I don't want to speak with you anymore ...
Woman: WTF? Why not?!
You: Every Kathy that spells her name with a K is trouble ... Like I know a Cathy with a C and she's a buddy, but every Kathy that spells it with a K I have actually ever met has been such a party girl. horrible influences on my life ...
The most important aspect of the above interaction is not the cocky/funny itself but how you're bringing her into your reality. You are making use of a principle called, "push-pull." This is essentially when you say something negative followed by something nice, and back and forth again. By doing this, not only are you attracting her with your cocky/funny routine, you are establishing a personal, emotional connection with her.
B) Gimmicks and Routines
There are all types of gimmicks and routines you could use to demonstrate your value. Among the most efficient routines are magic tricks. A woman will ooh and aah at a magic trick and will instantly create intrigue and interest towards you. However, this does not always create attraction. To create attraction, you need to emotionally engage a woman with your trick.
Again, this means to bring her into your reality. This is done by involving her and absorbing her into your magic trick. You do a trick that actively involves her in to the trick. Stuff like reading her thoughts or guessing the letter she's thinking etc. functions well to engage her emotions.
C) Reading and understanding her
Girls will be irresistibly attracted to you if you understand them as a person and acknowledge the type of person she is. The following is a sample dialogue that demonstrates this point:
When I initially met you, you appeared type of cold, but I don't know ... You know there are 2 types of people in this world. Those that observe and those that are observed, and you appear more like the observer kind of person. I think when people first meet you, they'll believe you're cold and distant but that's just because they don't know you. You experience the world using your feelings and just want to make certain that the people you allow into your life are truly good people. But that's only a defense you put up to protect yourself because when you're around the right people and having a good time, you can let go and be yourself. And that's what you're looking for in life, i think, people that you can be real with and that truly understands you as a person.
This is one of the most powerful ways to instantly emotionally engage a woman. This will instantly create powerful attraction as well as connection. However, you actually have to be perceptive and thoughtful, which only comes with experience and skill.
The point of all these is to emotionally involve a woman. Everything you do, all the gimmicks, lines, and tricks you use has no meaning unless you engage a woman and make an emotional connection. Keep the dull talk to a minimum. When you open the door and get in, immediately engage her feelings with the above techniques.
Many guys have the misconception that pickup techniques are just about dropping lines, gimmicks, and routines. Ultimately though, successfully attracting a woman is about making a unique emotional connection between you two. It's not just about the lines you're spouting or the techniques you're dropping but you have to adjust and adapt to the kind of person she is, what she's thinking, and what she's feeling. This is what is known to pickup artists as "calibration."
After you have actually approached a girl and successfully opened the door, you need to quickly shift in to demonstrating your high value. In other words, you have to emotionally engage a woman and bring her in to your reality. There are 3 main ways to do this:
A) Cocky/Funny.
This is acting cocky in a funny way. Not being outright rude or a clown, but being smart and confident in what you say. The following is a very basic sequence of a cocky/funny sequence:
You: So what was your name once more?
Girl: Cathy.
You: Nice name, you spell that with a C or K?
Woman: K.
You: Are you serious? Haha, I don't want to speak with you anymore ...
Woman: WTF? Why not?!
You: Every Kathy that spells her name with a K is trouble ... Like I know a Cathy with a C and she's a buddy, but every Kathy that spells it with a K I have actually ever met has been such a party girl. horrible influences on my life ...
The most important aspect of the above interaction is not the cocky/funny itself but how you're bringing her into your reality. You are making use of a principle called, "push-pull." This is essentially when you say something negative followed by something nice, and back and forth again. By doing this, not only are you attracting her with your cocky/funny routine, you are establishing a personal, emotional connection with her.
B) Gimmicks and Routines
There are all types of gimmicks and routines you could use to demonstrate your value. Among the most efficient routines are magic tricks. A woman will ooh and aah at a magic trick and will instantly create intrigue and interest towards you. However, this does not always create attraction. To create attraction, you need to emotionally engage a woman with your trick.
Again, this means to bring her into your reality. This is done by involving her and absorbing her into your magic trick. You do a trick that actively involves her in to the trick. Stuff like reading her thoughts or guessing the letter she's thinking etc. functions well to engage her emotions.
C) Reading and understanding her
Girls will be irresistibly attracted to you if you understand them as a person and acknowledge the type of person she is. The following is a sample dialogue that demonstrates this point:
When I initially met you, you appeared type of cold, but I don't know ... You know there are 2 types of people in this world. Those that observe and those that are observed, and you appear more like the observer kind of person. I think when people first meet you, they'll believe you're cold and distant but that's just because they don't know you. You experience the world using your feelings and just want to make certain that the people you allow into your life are truly good people. But that's only a defense you put up to protect yourself because when you're around the right people and having a good time, you can let go and be yourself. And that's what you're looking for in life, i think, people that you can be real with and that truly understands you as a person.
This is one of the most powerful ways to instantly emotionally engage a woman. This will instantly create powerful attraction as well as connection. However, you actually have to be perceptive and thoughtful, which only comes with experience and skill.
The point of all these is to emotionally involve a woman. Everything you do, all the gimmicks, lines, and tricks you use has no meaning unless you engage a woman and make an emotional connection. Keep the dull talk to a minimum. When you open the door and get in, immediately engage her feelings with the above techniques.
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